Lukas Starling

Gestalt Psychotherapist

B.A., B.Sc., GCertGestPsych, M.Ed., M.Gest.Psych

PRONOUNS: He/They

Lukas Starling (he/they) is a PACFA‑registered gestalt psychotherapist and emotionally focused therapist who works with individuals, couples and groups. Lukas supports people who are experiencing stress in their relationships, grief, sadness, anxiety, or a sense of isolation from others. Their therapeutic intention is to help you understand what you, or your relationship, are longing for, needing, and wanting more connection with. Together, you will explore deeper ways of relating to yourself and others, so new self‑supporting patterns can emerge and lead to more satisfying experiences in life and love.

Lukas is a hopeful therapist. Through their own therapeutic journey and years of witnessing clients’ growth, Lukas holds a deep trust that healing from relational wounds is possible. They aim to support you to feel grounded, connected, and able to thrive.

In their work with couples and relationships, Lukas uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help partners move from blame and disconnection toward understanding the negative cycles they are caught in together. With care and collaboration, couples learn to step out of these patterns and build secure, supportive bonds.

With individuals, Lukas draws on gestalt therapy principles of phenomenology, field theory, dialogue and experimentation to support awareness and embodied change. They are also informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to help clients develop compassionate relationships with their inner parts, and use art‑based approaches when words are not enough.

Lukas offers support for:

• family of origin neglect
• incest & childhood sexual abuse
• male survivors of sexual violence
• gay & queer people/relationships
• gender diversity
• concerns with pornography use
• climate change anxiety
• grief & loss
• isolation & loneliness
• anxiety & depression

Lukas’s diary is open to new individuals & couples, with availability Mondays & Tuesdays in person & online